Let’s face, sharing your life with someone can be difficult at times. And when you add the mundane necessities of living that life to a relationship, it can negatively impact a relationship. Taking out the garbage is annoying. Cleaning the cat litter sucks. And cleaning the bathroom, more specifically the toilet is the worse. But the number one chore most likely to wreak havoc on a relationship? Doing the dishes. Surprised?
A new report from the Council of Contemporary Families found that of all the pain in the butt chores that have to get done around the house, dirty dishes are the most likely to create negative feelings. That is—and this is important—if women are stuck doing them the most often.
Women in heterosexual relationships who did most of the dishes themselves reported that they were less satisfied in their relationship and had more relationship conflict, according to the study. They even reported having worse sex. But the couples who either traded off nights or sorted out a “you cook, I’ll clean” type of situation were happier overall. Dirty dishes came in as the number one relationship agitator for a number of possible reasons, the first being that dirty dishes are revolting and no one wants to touch old, soggy leftovers. The second reason is that you don’t get complimented for doing them like you might for cooking dinner. The third is that women too often get saddled with chores that involve cleaning up messes created by their kids and partner. So, are you sharing doing the dishes with your partner?